SHORT VERSION:
Gray Miller, aka “Graydancer”, has been teaching, performing, and advocating for kink and BDSM since 2003. His work includes the “Ropecast” – the longest-running kink podcast on the web, ROPECRAFT, a bondage convention, and co-founder of “Consent Rocks”, a non-profit working to improve consent practices. Gray is also an author and writer of both novels and personal development books. Gray is passionate about subjects such as rope, power exchange, leather, cigars, consent in the community, performance, and the educational aspects of kink.
LONG VERSION:
Graydancer has been teaching, performing, and advocating for kink and BDSM for over a decade. He has worked professionally in web, video, and social media for several clients ranging from Kink.com to the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom to the Kink Academy. You can also hear Graydancer as a guest on various podcasts such as Polyamory Weekly and Dart’s Domain, or his own Ropecast (the longest-running kink podcast on the web). Gray was featured on Our America with Lisa Ling: 50 Shades of Kink which aired in January of 2013 on the Oprah Winfrey Network. While his roots lie in bondage, Gray’s focus has evolved over time to subjects such as power exchange relationships, improving consent practices, leather culture, and the educational aspects of kink. He was the first to apply Open Space principles to a kink event, creating GRUEs which have been held at over 45 locations in the U.S., Canada, and Europe. He also directs ROPECRAFT, a rope bondage convention that’s “Knot- for everyone.” Currently he resides in the Bondage Capital of the World, Madison, WI where he is working on becoming a total GILF.
The easiest way to get hold of Graydancer is to email him: graydancer@gmail.com. He’s also Graydancer on Twitter, Fetlife, Facebook, and anywhere else he can get away with it.
He has presented, volunteered, performed and been a part of many events, including
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Graydancer & MinxGrrl, as painted by Nancy Peach
Leather Leadership Conference (Minneapolis, MN)
- Shibaricon (Chicago, IL)
- Folsom Fair (San Francisco, CA)
- SPANKfest (Black River Falls, WI)
- the Leather Archives & Museum (Chicago, IL)
- Austin Ropecraft Symposium (Austin, TX)
- Kinky Kollege (Chicago, IL)
- Sinsations in Leather (Chicago, IL)
- Blogworld Expo (Las Vegas, NV)
- GRUE (Madison, WI, Lansing, MI, St. Louis, MO, Minneapolis, MN, Toronto, CA)
- Satyricon and Sabbat de Sade (Madison, WI)
- Central Ohio Perversion Excursion (Columbus, OH)
- Ohio Leather Fest (Columbus, OH)
- Beyond Leather (Ft Lauderdale, FL)
- TES Fest (NJ)
- Rapture NYC
- Twisted Factory (Oakland, CA)
- Hogtied.com (San Francisco, CA)
- Minnesota KINKY Book Club
- A Woman’s Touch (Madison and Milwaukee, WI)
- New Orleans Leather Association
- Kinko De Mayo (Cleveland, OH)
- Seattle Erotic Art Festival
- Beat Me in St. Louis
- Chicago Rope Symposium
- Galleria Domain II (Chicago)
- Erotic Milwaukee
- the Crucible’s Rope Academy (Washington D.C.)
- Black Phoenix Dungeon (Philadelphia PA)
- Dark Odyssey (Washington D.C.)
- The Baltimore Erotic Art Festival
- Madtown Kinkfest (Madison WI)
- Nuit Blanche (Toronto, CA)
- Club Expresión (Mexico City)
- The Usual Suspects 2011 (Amsterdam, NE)
- The London GRUE (London, UK)
- The Berlin GRUE (Berlin, DE)
- The London Festival of the Art of Japanese Bondage
- Sin in the City
- BOLDcon
- Fetfest
- Los Angeles GRUE
- San Francisco GRUE
- Mission Control
- The Rope Academy (Crucible, D.C.)
- The Studio Chicago
- A Woman’s Touch (Madison, WI)
- Show Me the Ropes (Madison, WI)
- Rope Bite (Pittsburgh)
- …and many more!
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Hi Gray
I searched all over for an email address for you on here, but this is as close as I could find.
I wanted to check in about your interest in doing a podcast interview if applicable about my new Conscious Fetish Blog, my Conscious D/s-BDSM workshops see http://www.DakaDom.com or the innovative upgrades I made to the Tetruss…stronger, lighter, roomier …see http://www.Tetruss.com
I also note you are also using the suffusion theme…I am still figuring mine out…but I think it is a pretty cool theme…and you are really maxxing yours…in fact you are maxxing your life in all directions…how on earth do you juggle all this stuff….very impressive!
best regards
Galen
Hey Graydancer,
i have just a very small question. I found a youtube video today where you have bagged up a girl in a garbage bag and tied her with rop. You can find the video here: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJQIXPekCxg
Do you have any more video material of this? It would be very nice!
Hope to get an email from you! 😉
Best regards!
Where’s your contact info/email? Am I missing something? Couldn’t make it to your gig yesterday in Philly (thought it was next week) and wanted to meet up after… ah well hope your reading was awesome!
HELLO, MY NANE IS TONY. I LIVE IN WICHITA, KS. YOU WILL BE HERE SOON!!!!!!
I AM WRITING BECAUSE I INTERESTED IN LEATHER/SM. I HAVE NEVER BEEN INVOLVED IN IT BEFORE; AT LEAST I THINK I HAVE NOT? WERE DO I START? HOW DO I START? I AM SOMEWHAT AFRAID.
I AM A TOP AND I LOVE RECEIVING BLOW JOBS, FOR HOURS IF HE CAN HANDLE IT. I LIKE TO SIT BACK AND BE SERVICED. IS THAT SELFISH OF ME?
ALSO, I DON’T DRINK/DRUG-IN RECOVERY. I AM NOT SURE IF I CAN BE INVOLVED WITH SOMEONE WHO IS DRUNK. CAN A PERSON GET INVOLVED IN SM WITHOUT DRINKING/DRUGING.
I DON’T GO TO BARS. WERE CAN I MEET OTHERS WITH THE SAME INTEREST. AND FEEL SAFE?
I GUEST WHAT I AM TRING TO SAY WHAT I KNOW OF OR ABOUT SM IS LITTLE TO NOTHING.
HELP?
TONY M
HELLO, MY NANE IS TONY. I LIVE IN WICHITA, KS. YOU WILL BE HERE SOON!!!!!!
I AM WRITING BECAUSE I INTERESTED IN LEATHER/SM. I HAVE NEVER BEEN INVOLVED IN IT BEFORE; AT LEAST I THINK I HAVE NOT? WERE DO I START? HOW DO I START? I AM SOMEWHAT AFRAID.
I AM A TOP AND I LOVE RECEIVING BLOW JOBS, FOR HOURS IF HE CAN HANDLE IT. I LIKE TO SIT BACK AND BE SERVICED. IS THAT SELFISH OF ME?
ALSO, I DON’T DRINK/DRUG-IN RECOVERY. I AM NOT SURE IF I CAN BE INVOLVED WITH SOMEONE WHO IS DRUNK. CAN A PERSON GET INVOLVED IN SM WITHOUT DRINKING/DRUGING.
I DON’T GO TO BARS. WERE CAN I MEET OTHERS WITH THE SAME INTEREST. AND FEEL SAFE?
I GUEST WHAT I AM TRING TO SAY WHAT I KNOW OF OR ABOUT SM IS LITTLE TO NOTHING.
HELP?
TONY MORGAN
Graydancer:
Just wanted to give you a huge thank you. For all of the podcasts and the work that you have done for the community. I remember listening to your podcast way back when it was called Rope weekly, and unfortunately I was never able to help you out with money for equipment, web hosting fees, etc…
You do so much and now that I am a bit stable financially, I sent you a big donation with lots of hugs and love. You have done a lot for us in the community, and you brother were my introduction to rope play, and how awesome rope is overall. I thank you kind Sir, and hope to continue listening to your podcasts.
If you ever need a bit of dough due to whatever, give a shout out and I will see what I can do and help out. I know there are many out there just taking, taking and taking and not giving back. But now that I can I am giving back as much as I can.
Always remember that there are people out there looking out for you and willing to go the distance for you at a moments notice. Keep rocking Sir.
Take care.
Stryfe
Hi, I am a college student and am writing a paper on the mental and emotional benefits of various degrees of bondage play. A friend recommended that I contact you as I am interested but mostly ignorant about this subject. I hope you will be interested in helping me with my paper. I also sent you a message on facebook if that would be an easier means of communication.
Always,
Cassandra
Cassandra,
I’m sorry I seem to have missed this comment. If you still would like to talk, then by all means email me at graydancer at gmail.com. I would be glad to assist. – Gray
Just wondering if you are coming to South Carolina any time soon or a nearby state
Was just wondering if you are coming to South Carolina or a near by state any time soon. We are interested in attending if so.
I am, actually, next week! You can find out more https://fetlife.com/events/305335 at the event page, and I’m also teaching private sessions and my Military Style Bondage in Charleston (https://fetlife.com/events/319378). Feel free to email me for more info!