There is a particular role in almost every community known as “The Rope Guy”* Usually it’s the person you go to when you want to get tied up/suspended/decorated/figure out how to tie down the mattress to the van. It’s not a pejorative by any means. But like any label, it can sometimes be the end[…]
In spite of my efforts to the contrary, the previous post, which was about hyperbole, seems to have inspired much talk about Breath Play instead. It’s very interesting, from a social media/sociological/psychological point of view, to see the ways people interpret my writing, my conclusions, and my stance on breath play. I accept entire responsibility[…]
Note: this post has been edited from its original content. I made two errors, in saying that Mistress Matisse had said that the choking techniques required “years” of training, and second in incorrectly using the word “alarmist.” Both have been edited, and I apologize for the sloppy fact-checking. Of all the various tropes and myriad[…]
“Brinksmanship is…the deliberate creation of a recognizable risk, a risk that one does not completely control. It is the tactic of deliberately letting the situation get somewhat out of hand, just because its being out of hand may be intolerable to the other party and force his accommodation…showing that if he makes a contrary move[…]
A while back, after my homily on Dangerous Rope at the DC GrUE, I found this message from Raven1st in my Fetlife inbox. I’ve redacted and edited, but I think you’ll get the gist: In a discussion about keeping our own personal relationships with our partners exciting, significant, personal, intense, private (even in a room[…]
“The improvisation and change in connection between the two becomes the overarching ritual.”-Kiora I’ve said it before, but that one statement blew my mind. It was during a class/discussion on “Ropes, Ritual & Symbolism” at the recent GRUE in the ‘Lou (the 1 after 2) and you can read the rough transcription of my notes[…]
“Easy, fast, and useful ties, as advertised. Exceeded expectations. Even people in the back were able to see. Gray demonstrated multiple times so that everyone could see what and how he was tying. Nice, loud speaker that didn’t mess around. Yay!” – Shibaricon 2010 Attendee on Graydancer’s “Tie ‘Em Up & Fuck ‘Em” class That[…]
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